We have found that Josh tends to feel very superior to women and his sisters in general. We don't know if this is a cultural thing, a personal thing or a "big brother" thing. Couple that sense of superiority with his competitive spirit... and you've got the perfect storm. We have been working on this since they came home in February. Josh would often order Jameson around... if he dropped something, he ordered her to go get it. If he wanted a drink, he ordered her to go get it. It went on and on. From the first minute we noticed it, we said, "Oh no. That's not the way it works around here." Saying it and changing attitudes, norms and habits are another thing. Jameson is quick to do WHATEVER he requests. We have to tell her to make him do it himself. Today while we were playing a memory game for school, Josh tells her, "I am so going to win." She replies, "I am so going to get second."
I guess some things are difficult to change.
PS I helped her win.