So for example, if I say, "Do not climb on that chair", what the brain hears is "Do climb on that chair." I have looked for the research to substantiate these claims and I've only found a little bit of information; mostly to do with sentence structure and understanding of what is being said. But I still believe it!
In knowing this idea, I can see how it works.
Several years ago, we had borrowed a turtle shell camping thing that goes on the top of your car. It was secured atop our Expedition, therefore made the thing REALLY tall. I had to go to work before we had a chance to take it off. The ENTIRE way to work, I kept telling myself, "Do not park in the garage. Do not park in the garage. Do not park in the garage." I had no reason to even think that I would park in the garage. I had never parked in the garage before. NEVER.
But what did I do?
Yep. Like I had parked there every day of my life, I pulled right into the garage. The exact thing I had been trying to avoid. Luckily, my senses returned to me just before I peeled our Expedition like a can of tuna on the roof of the parking garage.
But why? Why would I do something so out of character for me?
Because I mentally told myself to.
I told myself. "Park in the garage. Park in the garage. Park in the garage."
I have tried to change the way I speak to my kids using this idea. Instead of telling them "not" to do something. I try to always remember to tell the kids exactly what I DO want them to do. I made the mistake of telling Jameson today, "Don't forget your folder." Guess what she did? Just what I told her... she forget her folder.
In my every day life, I'm trying to tell myself what I AM going to do. For example: "I am going to have a good day"...instead of "I hope I don't have a bad day." I have no idea if this is sound or not, just something I was thinking about today.